But for me, and my three best friends, the key word is “want” rather than need.We all have fulfilling careers, lots of good friends and interesting lives.I am working towards balancing a dating life while raising two amazing daughters.I have a full time career and a fairly active social life.Add the fact that younger guys have more stamina, and you just may have a match made in orgasm heaven.“A younger man has more energy and is more willing to try things,” says Lindsay Slosberg, dating expert for the app Let’s Date.“In turn, doing new things increases dopamine in the brain, triggering a desire to spend more time together and assisting in lighting your sexual fire.”An even bigger bedroom bonus?It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single, attractive, heterosexual woman over the age of 40 must be in need of a man.Or so Carrie Bradshaw would have you believe; and she is mostly right.
And by the way, how long did she wait between ending each marriage and starting a new relationship?I am a never-married male, 29, dating a woman of 45 who has two kids from two previous marriages.We've been seeing each other for over a year in secret. Only recently have I been open about it with my brother, who is no fan of it, either.This is one of life’s big mysteries but sometimes I think the key is identifying the right places to look. When you’re over 40, you’re usually pretty comfortable in your own skin You know what you like, and what you don’t.Maybe you would prefer to hang out at cafes, museums, film festivals and art galleries.Rushing into a new relationship leaves no time for reflection about what went wrong , or time to reset the psyche.The odds of a successful remarriage (or cohabitation) on her part are not great, made all the worse by the presence of two children.A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next.But how do you deal with this situation when you don't have any children of your own?Hi Evan, I have been reading your blog for a while now, and am appreciative of the insights I’ve learned.Younger men are as adventurous outside of the bedroom as they are inside it, and they’ll bring out a more youthful, vibrant side of you, says Lori Bizzoco, founder and executive editor of Cupids “He will see you as smarter and worldlier, so he’ll want to please you, not just physically but emotionally and intellectually,” she says.“He’ll come up with creative date ideas that bring back romance and youth, and make you feel empowered and appreciated.”When you enter into a new relationship, it’s no secret you’re bringing former boyfriends along with you. “Men can have preconceived notions about women and relationships based on past experiences,” says Samantha Daniels, a professional matchmaker and president of Samantha's Table Matchmaking.I tell them we get along well and I enjoy her kids very much. Which means you have lots of information-gathering to do.