I was shocked in gym class to see how many girls have piercings in other parts of the body. I'm also worried about my little brother because the guys in school sometimes take piercing to a real extreme. (see Genesis ) In Jewish law, the main determination is whether a particular body piercing is done for a constructive purpose. As for men, if we're talking about a society where men also pierce their ears or other parts of their body for beauty, it is permitted – see "Rashi" Exodus 32:2. 182:1) Also, if it is done for erotic reasons, it is forbidden as a violation of the command to "be holy." (Igrot Moshe – E. ) But the real question is why you want it: If it's to be fashionable and "in," know that there are many people walking around today who regret having done things in their youth that cannot be undone. I think there are more constructive ways to express yourself than to make permanent marks on your body.
Excessive body piercing without a constructive purpose is considered making a wound, which the Torah forbids (Deut. If, however, it is common for only women to pierce, but not for men, it is forbidden to don a woman's attire or jewelry, and therefore is not allowed. In terms of your own personal growth and development, the piercing is probably not a very good idea, since it may mean identifying with a certain strata of society who may not best represent your own goals and values.
In a dating advice article entitled 5 Ways to Turn Off a Guy, the authors (two Orthodox female psychotherapists) present 5 nuggets of wisdom they learned from speaking with 3 recently married men, to warn woman of what to avoid so as not to “turn off” the guy they’re dating. And the last thing you want is to be in a relationship (and marriage) with a partner who married you for the person he or she .
Don’t cover up the real you, because that’s the person who’s going to have to be in this relationship long term.
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Don’t overload your online dating profile (with professional and academic achievements) 4. Don’t pursue him While I agree with the the last point (let the guy pursue YOU in the early dating stage), and you probably shouldn’t tell a guy your deepest and darkest secrets on a first date (unless you feel that they will have a material effect on the viability of the relationship), the entire premise of the article is just plain condescending to both men and women. But here’s the basic rule for BOTH parties to a date. You heard me, be is not going to be “turned off” by your academic or professional accomplishments. The right man or woman will appreciate your personality and conversational style, whether you’re a debater, comedian or a bit on the quiet side.
Sure, you should always try to look your best (and most men will see through the makeup and either be attracted to YOU or not — whether you’re wearing an evening gown or a pair of torn jeans). But stop worrying about what he or she is looking for and instead, try to be the best version of YOU.
Unfortunately in today's society, kids have simply no limits and you must therefore try to set a boundary for yourself.
Since you are going to have to draw the line somewhere, it may as well be here.