Incapable of repelling sexual advances due to being “inhibited about their sexuality” and a “submissive nature in the bedroom”, Stephanie describes Chinese women as Shanghai’s renewable resource that keeps replenishing the carnal needs of its dating pool, “ensuring that most Western men here are never short on sex”.If part of the problem is that Chinese women aren’t able to say “no”, the other half is that Chinese men aren’t able to ask the question.A decade ago, my plans for coming to China included teaching for a year, two...maybe even three, before returning to the US to start my teaching career.Dating was not part of my plan, so when it happened, I was completely unprepared for it.Global Times recently published an article written by a “Stephanie N.” Titled “Single foreign females in China don’t have it easy“, Stephanie complains that circumstances are tough for her and other foreign women when it comes to finding love in Shanghai, saying that the “odds are simply against us” and calling the entire experience “bittersweet”.No one is spared in Stephanie’s deconstruction of the Wild West of relationships that is Shanghai.Personally, I don't think I'm a typical, boring Chinaman. Which is even worse, because non-Chinese ladies (and liberal Chinese ladies) assume that I am, and the typical Chinese ladies view my candid charm with deep mistrust.
This can be frustrating for the woman, who expect to be showered with praises of unrivalled beauty and proclamations of undying love. Sorry, we can't get sneak into the toilet at the back of the plane and get down and dirty - it's against like, you know, against aviation protocol.
Both talk about their relationships with their Chinese significant others.
Here are some of our insights about dating Chinese guys: Chinese guys, with pressure from their parents and coming from a different culture of dating, by-and-large date to marry.
Marriage between Caucasian men and Oriental women are commonplace, all over the world. Chinese chicks can get away with it, because there's always a huge market for petite chicks.
But how often do you see a Chinese dude getting lucky with a white chick? Even the ones born and bred in the West don't fare much better, and are easily upstaged by their peers of African or Hispanic descent. Our pool is depleted from home-grown fishes, and the fishes elsewhere aren't biting our bait. Whereas guys are meant to be big, strong and protective - so unless one is built like Bruce Lee, no girl will madly melt into your arms. A woman, driven by her maternal instincts, wants a good mate with good genes to obtain good offsprings. They don't go for broke in the early passionate years of courtship on diamond rings, and instead prefer to save money for meaningful things, like housing and kid's education.