He’s been on and told me his message inbox is radio silent.
He will message women and they won’t respond, and doesn’t receive messages initiated by women either.
I’ve struggled with this as well, often overlooking shorter guys for tall ones.
We as queer men, need be more aware of this, and question why we prefer tall to short guys. Tall guys literally look down on people, every single day. They also get treated specially for being tall, so often, tall guys, especially tall gay men, are pretty full of themselves.
Is there actually a legitimate reason, or is it because we’ve been told from a young age to like “tall, dark, and handsome? Short guys on the other hand, don’t have that privilege They aren’t given special treatment for being tall.
Superficial standards of beauty probably aren’t that important to him, given that he doesn’t have the classic height needed to be conventionally attractive. You fit like perfect puzzle pieces when he's shorter than you are.
Their playbook, honed by necessity, is all about evening the odds and picking up subtle signs of interest that their loftier brothers might ignore. Let these men’s struggles and solutions prove otherwise.According to Malcolm Gladwell, as well as being predominately white and male, apparently CEOs are almost all tall. Reddit has a page called r/short where over 20,000 members discuss things like ‘heightism’ and the difficulties of dating as a short guy. BEVERLY HILLS, CA - JANUARY 11: Eniko Parrish and actor/comedian Kevin Hart attend the 72nd Annual Golden Globe Awards at The Beverly Hilton Hotel on January 11, 2015 in Beverly Hills, California.Plus, navigating the world of dating is already a mess, so being on an extreme end of any physical spectrum doesn't exactly make it any easier.Kevin: I'm not one to complain about being short, because once you realize you can shop in the children's section and climb on top of things to get to out-of-reach objects, you're pretty much on a level playing field with the rest of the world. I think a lot of guys fetishize the height gap and say things like, "I'm so into you because you're so short," or "It's really hot knowing that I could lift you up in bed," etc.However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.Homonormative beauty standards in the gay male community are toxic.It makes it impossible for anyone who’s not white, muscular, with blond hair and blue eyes to be beautiful.Not to sound like a Dove commercial, but beauty does come in all shapes, sizes, and colors.Our idea of beauty is distorted, driven by years of limited male depiction in the media.But then he told me, “Anita, just for fun sometimes I change my height to 6 feet, and then my inbox gets flooded with messages.” Several of my male clients are on dating app and mention that of the first questions that women ask them is their height.When they say they’re 5’9″ or 5’8″, they don’t hear from them again. When I heard these kinds of stories from men, my heart sinks.We want guys tall, dark and handsome; big men that’ll make us feel dainty and protected; real men who knock their heads on door frames and ask for fourth helpings of dinner. A recent study found that nearly half the women surveyed would only date men taller than themselves.