Heck, you might even love him all the more for the quirks you would find annoying in anybody else.Dating a friend might seem less glamorous than falling in love at first sight, but what's more suspenseful than decoding a friend's flirty mixed signals for signs of romantic intentions?Why dating your best friend may be your best bet to finding true love.There's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met, but lately, we've been wondering whether it's better to date a friend, or at least somebody we've known longer than just a couple of weeks.And so I decided that the very best thing I could do was to give it a shot and see what happened--in part because I also felt fairly confident, upon reflection, that my friendship with Jake was strong enough to survive just about anything. " And indeed, it was not.)Still, the break-up--understandable and inevitable though it was--hurt. After all, if I couldn't make it work with this person I cared so deeply about, and got along so well with, how in the hell was I ever going to make It took a few months before Jake and I began to hang out again.But then one afternoon, after we'd both (independently) moved out of D. to return to New York, I was getting my hair cut at my old favorite place--Antonio Prieto--when it dawned on me that I was just down the street from Jake's new office.
Then this past November I decided to give it a try again.
I also wondered if my hesitation had to do with a (lingering? Yet, the lack of sexual heat was an indisputable fact.
) case of commitment-phobia on my part, rather than any real doubts about the situation at hand; maybe the supposed chemistry conundrum was just a cover for my fear of getting closer to him. (Trust me on that: About six months after we broke up, Jake said, "The sex really wasn't very good, was it?
Girls, I’m going to let you in on a little secret you haven’t been letting yourself believe: 9 out of 10 guys only become your best friend so that they can date you.
I know this because I’ve done it, and so has almost every guy I’ve ever met or come in contact with. In fact, it’s OK to be flattered by the fact that a guy is willing to be friends with you before harassing you with dating requests.