Now in nearly all cases this isn't the parent's first choice; they don't For some divorcing parents, particularly moms or whomever was the kids' primary caregiver, this new free time can be something they haven't had in years. All of us need structure in our lives, although hectic and overwhelming at times, it's good for us to have structure because it keeps us out of trouble.So Meagan's new found free time combined with her desire to "have some fun" and for companionship has resulted in her spending a lot of time at a couple of local restaurants with bars.

The reason divorce lawyers counsel against dating while the divorce is pending, even if separated, is that it has the potential to increase both the cost and the stress of the divorce trial. Judges, however, rarely punish someone who begins dating – sexually or otherwise – once they have physically separated from their spouse.

Dating a guy who is going through a divorce can be a different type of relationship that not all women are equipped to deal with.

Although the best advice is to take it as slow as possible, things often speed up without us realizing it, as love can be the natural state of things and seem so easy when it appears.

Even so, the presence of someone new, particularly when paraded in front of the spouse and/or children, can enrage the soon-to-be ex, and also create the suspicion that the relationship began as an “affair” before the separation.

The innocent new friend can be deposed by the other side’s lawyer (that is, asked questions that are taken under oath and recorded by a stenographer or even videotaped) and subpoenaed to testify at trial.