She's confident in who she is and knows what she wants, even if she may not always 2. She's never been the type of person who *needs* to be in a relationship, or even someone to go to dinner with. She knows what she wants in life and she's determined to make it happen. She isn't going to waste time in a relationship with someone who isn't as independent as she is. She actually that's super important to her, it's because she trusts you. I'm writing this article as a follow up to the one I did on what's going on in the mind of guys who are shy and inexperienced with women. Some said that they were shy with men and several of the points in it applied to their own situation.Others pointed out how shy women have their own struggles as well.Hollywood makes it seem so effortless for people to find love.But, reality check: Dating isn’t always easy, especially for quiet women. If she isn't speaking too much at first, it's not because she's disinterested.
Not all shy men will have issues that intense or have every characteristic apply to them.It’s easier said than done, but ultimately, if your crush is going to become your long-time SO, then both of you need to break out of your shells.“I’ve struggled a little bit with being open on dates, but I would say that it's helpful to just be yourself and play to your strengths,” says Rachel, a junior at Roosevelt University.With that in mind I thought I'd try to be even more helpful and write a whole article outlining what it's like to be a man who's really shy and inexperienced with women.At the end I give a few thoughts on what to do if there's a shy guy in your life you're interested in. Just because she's shy doesn't mean she's not confident. She simply hasn't had enough time to get to know them yet. Being the center of attention is basically her worst nightmare. Please don't mistake being shy for not being self-assured. Please plan a small gathering as opposed to a huge party where 20 strangers will descend on her at once and freak her out. Secondly, being shy doesn't mean she hates meeting new people! First of all, the more people, the less of a chance there is that all the attention will be on her. They reminder her that it's OK to loosen up once in awhile.12. And then there are the women in their mid-twenties or later who are still very inexperienced (more on that later on).Here's a quick summary of the basic shyness issues women can deal with around guys.Dating advice is outside the scope of this site, with this article being a semi-exception.Over the years several women have written me to tell me reading this site has helped them understand the actions of a shy guy they were pursuing.There are lots of women who have good romantic lives, but who still consider themselves shy around guys at heart, and wish they weren't so inhibited at times.