Olivia Ortiz met her first boyfriend when she was an 18-year-old sophomore at the University of Chicago.
She said she set “pretty strong sexual boundaries” with him from the start: He was a 21-year-old senior, but he was also her first kiss, and she told him she didn’t want to go any further than that until she felt comfortable.
Of course, this sort of black-and-white logic can be hard to apply to your own intimate relationships.
If you find yourself censoring your partner’s behavior when recounting it for friends or family, this might be a sign that some part of you realizes your partner’s behavior is “wrong.” If you find yourself policing your own behavior when with your partner out of fear that they will be “upset” or “disappointed” with you for failing to live up to their (often ill-defined or volatile) expectations, this might help you identify ways in which the power balance in your relationship is unhealthy and skewed.
It wasn’t until he broke up with her that summer that Ortiz confided in a mentor on campus.Here are other NCADV Domestic Violence on College Campuses Statistics: As you can see, statistics on domestic violence and rape at colleges and universities are staggering.Unfortunately, these statistics are likely much higher as many survivors do not report crimes to authorities out of fear of reprisal, fear of future acts of violence, anxiety, low self esteem and more.- 0.6% of male students and 3.5% of female students reported experiencing attempted sexual penetration without their consent.- 0.2% of male students and 1.9% of female students reported experiencing sexual penetration without their consent.On Black Friday, Nadia Ezaldein, a University of Chicago student, was working at a Chicago Nordstrom when her ex-boyfriend entered the store, found her in the accessories department, and shot her to death. A day earlier, on Thanksgiving, Shannon Jones, a student at Cornell University, was allegedly strangled to death by her boyfriend during an argument.Police described the murder as a "domestic incident." The two cases are not the only abusive relationships to end in the death of a college student in recent months.Know that you have the right to be safe, and that your school has a legal obligation under Title IX to ensure that you can safely continue your education.As a survivor of dating violence, you have the same rights as survivors of other forms of gender-based violence on campus; you can learn more about them here.He ignored her and pressured her for months, she said, and often tried to take advantage of her when she was drunk or sleeping.Sometimes, Ortiz said, she would wake up to him touching her while she had been unconscious.- 1% of male students and 3% of female students reported experiencing attempted sexual penetration without their consent.- 1% of male students and 2% of female students reported experiencing sexual penetration without their consent.She suggested Ortiz speak to the dean of students, who offered to set up an informal mediation between Ortiz and her ex.
