He’s going through a lot of emotional and legal stuff. (This is assuming that the guy is conscious and forthright about just wanting to date for fun right now) But if you want a long-term relationship with someone who is you that he doesn’t know what he wants (sometimes this happens; sometimes guys realize “wait, I don’t know what I want right now” or, even better and more clear: “this isn’t what I want right now”) – this is actually to your because then there’s no guessing game at that point, there’s little or no ambiguity (unless he’s giving you mixed messages, which often happens).
This is a big red flag that shows that he’s unsure of what he wants right now and is kind of just doing what looking for long-term love right now and just want to date for fun…dating a guy on the rebound might be your opportunity!
You’ll have to be able to accept the fact that his wife will always be part of his life.
I have a friend who is in her forties, who told me that her parents got divorced in high school, and that she was really mean to her dad’s girlfriend (who is now his wife) for years.There’s been a surge of people that married in their early twenties, when that was the trend, realized in their forties they didn’t know who their partner was, or who they even were themselves, divorced, and are now looking for a new, more informed type of love. He comes with the experience, but also the pain, of a married man. You can see his Ex everywhere Even if his ex lives in another country, you can Google her, Facebook her, Twitter her, Instagram her…and unless you’re an individual of extremely strong will power, you will do all of those things. He loved this woman in the way once, by making the decision to conjoin lives with her. Divorce can feel like the biggest failure to a person.And then, he rejected her in the ultimate way, by divorcing her. Something they thought they were 110% certain about, they turned out to be wrong about. There’s a seriousness that divorcees inevitably carry. But then he said he thought he was ready for this but realized he’s not. Wondering whether you’re the transitional woman is a common concern (in any relationship), but it’s especially a concern if you’re dating a recently divorced or divorcing man. I got her a dozen roses and a box of her favorite chocolates.” I replied, “That’s nice.” My friend responded, “What does it matter? Wouldn’t YOU want to spend as much time with your dad as you could if he wasn’t living in your house anymore? Understand when your boyfriend wants to spend time with his kids without you.Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean that you should rule him out completely. Dating a man who is going through a divorce or is newly divorced can be a tough challenge.However, there are some things you’ll want to know before dating a divorced man to ensure this is a journey you want to go on. Before getting into a serious commitment with a divorced man, be sure you know where the divorce really stands. In most relationships when you break up with someone, you can easily move them out of your lives.During the relationship he may run into old friends who ask about his divorce and his ex-wife, so mentally prepare yourself for that.Don’t get insecure, angry, or sad every time you hear her name. You’ve never felt such a connection with anyone else you’ve ever met before. You take a weekend away (even though it’s mostly spent in bed, but oh well, you don’t mind). Oh well, you say to yourself, maybe he had a busy day at work. Oh well, you say to yourself, he’s adjusting to being a single dad, you can understand, right? Rebound relationships typically serve short-term needs and have a short-term outlook. Then, one day he doesn’t pick up the phone or answer your texts as readily as he used to. But he said his ex has a last minute business trip and he has to take care of the kids. But there are some key differences between rebound relationships and relationships with long term potential.She’ll still hate me.” Dating someone with kids can be really difficult. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or want to be with you. If you do that, when he IS with you, he will love you so much more.The relationship of a girlfriend and her guy’s kids can be so complicated, with so many factors to consider. The kids might feel like they are being disloyal to their mother if they are kind to the girlfriend. They might be jealous that the girlfriend is taking their dad’s time. They might have hope that the parents are getting back together and that this is the woman standing in the way of that. They might really like the woman, but are just shy. Unlike him to not give you notice or find some workaround. The man that I married was a recent divorcee and we’re still going strong.