This was true even down to the little things; she usually made time to hang out with my friends, and do the things I wanted to do, rather than vice versa.
Then, last December, after much deliberation, we decided to be monogamous.
when you finish your drink show her your empty glass and say “your turn.” You’ll be amazed that the simple trick of getting her to pull out her wallet and buy you a drink boosts her attraction towards you…
Willard Waller was a sociologist who coined the phrase “The Principle of Least Interest.” It simply states that the person who has the least interest in continuing a relationship has the greatest power.
It was on Christmas day, while I was opening presents with my family, that she came clean via text: she was cheating on me.
Predictably, this precipitated an immediate panic attack.
While there are exceptions, this means that most women enter new romantic encounters in a one-down position.
“Why does everything you know, and everything you’ve learned, confirm you in what you believed before?
This why you’ve got to immediately establish that you have the upper hand… ” And i playfully said, “no, that’s for nerds and people who don’t have sex…which are you”… Once i had her attention I used the scrambler to make her earn my respect… I got her addicted to my validation rather than the other way where you’re chasing hers.
Waller developed the theory after observing many dating couples at Penn State, where he noticed that romantic partners usually had unequal degrees of emotional involvement.
He claimed that if the inequity became too large, one partner would be in a position to exploit the other emotionally. In fact, although the concept was articulated specifically to relate to relationships, it has over time become an economic principle as well, applied frequently to negotiation and marketing strategy.
I was happy about it—I finally felt ready to devote myself to her fully and to make our relationship stronger.
But soon afterward, I sensed a distance on her part.