I found my answer from others who have lived with Narcs longer than even I have, children of narcissistic parents (my heart goes out to you all! And even as I have the strength, empathy, and forgiveness innate to my personality that make me a perfect target, these traits are actually a double edged sword.Once the Narc no longer can control my emotions, I can use them to cut him down.One of the best ways to get a narcissist to leave you alone (eventually) is to ignore them. For a random person, there are generally three interactions as follows: Narcissist’s response: He or she realizes that you aren’t worth their time (as you aren’t giving narcissistic supply) and ignores you right back.However, being ignored by a love interest or from someone they value is a different story altogether.there is no one standard for how a narcissist will react when ignored.Some will react violently, some will be furious, some will stalk the person, some won’t care at all, and some will never truly have a “love” interest that they put that much value on.“Love” may not necessarily be impossible for narcissists; they just view love differently than other people.He (or she) can make their intended target feel important and highly valued, lavishing constant affection in order to make them feel special.He may do thoughtful little gestures, bring gifts, pay compliments and devote himself to the other’s pleasure in bed.
He’s handsome and self-confident and apparently successful.
Usually, they will act out or do anything to focus that person’s attention back to themselves. There is a difference in how they respond depending on whether you are a random person providing-or not providing- narcissistic supply, or a valued love interest.
Theoretically, a true narcissist can’t tolerate being ignored…anyone.
This is actually not their primary preference, they would prefer you adore them, though they do not deserve it, and defer to them in all things, including your thoughts and feelings.
They believe they can tell you how to think and feel and control your reactions to life and themselves, and in that they confirms, in their own mind, their god-like status.