You’re done with the bar scene and you’re very much interested in settling down to have a family of your own. Well, if you’re born in 1971, you’re part of Generation X. Your friends are buying their first houses and having their first kids. Maybe he’ll still be vigorous enough to keep up with your active lifestyle. Next, since you can’t convince someone to date an older man, stop trying.
And then you, the 36-year-old woman, post your profile, and what happens? It doesn’t stop older men from writing, but at least you don’t have to explain yourself to a man who doesn’t want to hear your perfectly valid explanation. But you must understand that any woman you desire online has choices. She can go out with a cute, successful man who is 35. To find out who IS interested, try Match.com’s Reverse Match.
I am really energetic and still enjoy many of the things I enjoyed in my 20s and 30s.
But in online dating, men my age are not looking at women my age. The men I do hear from are older than me by 10-15 years and are looking for a far more relaxed lifestyle or trying too hard to be youthful (If it is genuine, great, if not, it’s annoying.) I don’t want to date men who remind me of my dad, who want to eat quiet dinners every night or sit home watching movies.
So does Age Match.com, a website specifically designed for older men with younger women relationships and older women with younger men relationships.
Age differences in relationships are no longer important as long as two people find something in common.
Little did Bennett know at the time, his future wife was there, too: She was the baby growing inside the belly of the female fan.
You’re a successful older man who wants to date a woman significantly younger than him. Needless to say, this goes for ALL people who are dating online. We want what WE want, even if what we want is unrealistic.
Websites generally attempt to pair singles with matches who are demographically similar. We’re all so dazzled by looks and youth that we pass up amazing people who are a much better fit. The woman who graduated high school in the same year as you? “I can’t help what I’m attracted to,” say all of my clients – both male and female. I do know, however, that as long as they close their minds to dating people who are age-appropriate, they’re really going to struggle with online dating.
On the flip side, when I meet men in real life, I do attract more of the type I like—my age or younger and energetic.
Yet, when they find out how old I am or that my kids are in their late teens, they get freaked out (much like they get when they learn I have a Ph D), as if I have tricked them somehow on purpose.