The virtual world, that is, not the real world — don’t be daft: men like that were all snapped up years ago. I was single and not in bad nick, but working long hours in a female-dominated environment meant I never got to meet anyone.
Well, don’t — because, ladies, the world is full of handsome, charming men with six-figure salaries, who are all queuing up to commit to people just like you. It was 14 years ago, when I was 30, that I first tried online dating.
I’m talking about internet dating, of course, where millions of singletons (and quite a few marrieds on the make) line up to be selected and rejected in a process that has become Britain’s most popular way for couples to get together. Too young for the dinner party set, too old to be hanging out at nightclubs, it seemed like a hopeless cause until a friend of a similar age took me out and confessed her dirty little secret: she’d started to meet men online.
Go out and cultivate a hobby of some sort, and then get back to us. You wouldn't sit down at a bar and tell someone your life story (that role is reserved for the old and deranged), so choose something you and the dude have in common and start with that. I'll stomp on it and you'll be pissed, but you'll get over it because I'm just so gosh-darned charming. Take, say, three minutes to pound out a more personal message. Why no one wants you: We'll let you know after we examine that snapshot. You know that section where the girl/guy has indicated what s/he's "looking for"? According to an OKCupid study, calling someone "sexy," "beautiful" or "hot" is a huge turnoff in a first message.
I want the guy who wrote the profile, not this moron.
I got a bunch of comments — from both men and women — and the string of comments morphed into me sharing a list of about a dozen things I considered a real turn off on a man’s online dating profile. Adding photos is a good way to get a fresh look on the same site, anyway. On the same vein but not deserving its own category: blurry, over exposed, under exposed, or extreme closeup photos.
Dear Geoff, Glad to hear you found someone special, and even happier that you spoke up.
Most of the people that write about online dating write about what’s wrong with it. I mean, that’s what news is – emphasize the bad, misery loves company, etc.