This week is all about how to upgrade your Sexual Operating System so your intimate relationship is the source of lifelong fulfillment and satisfaction, for you and your partner. This is thanks to our built-in instinctive procreative imperative which is driven by base survival needs within Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Think of awareness as the “interrupt” to the unconscious programming of the S. And in that space you may briefly glimpse what it means to be fully self-actualized and transcend your day to day experience. actually prevents this from happening and that is the fundamental source of relationship breakdown. Here’s what we did: The above represent the non-gender-specific, S. This made it easier for me to focus on, and be fully present for, my partner and to slow way down so she has adequate time to warm up.
will doom them to eventual relationship failure, or at best, an unfulfilling life together if left unchecked. This means that at some level, most relationship behavior is unconsciously reactive. The details of which are covered extensively in the previous article. that allows you to insert new, more empowering, “code.” The next step is being very clear about what you really want out of your intimate relationship and Being in a great intimate relationship can be one of the most profound experiences that a human being can have. You are authentically and vulnerably sharing your most intimate thoughts, feelings and experiences with a partner who is doing the same with you. As a fully impotent male (yep, can’t get it up to save my life), my S. For example, I no longer have a sense of urgency that comes over most men when they have an erection.
Last week I wrote an article about how nearly every adult on the planet is deeply influenced by what I call the human Sexual Operating System (S. And they want it as much and frequently as possible. What I’m about to share with you is what it took for my partner and I to upgrade our respective S. What I recommend to other men on this is very straightforward: get rid of the baby-batter before you have your intimate sessions. Once you experience the extraordinary difference in outcome, you can go back to allowing yourself to be hard at the get go, only now with the requisite restraint necessary to consistently achieve these heightened results. However, it has been my personal experience that the ultimate experience is creating a “space” for my partner that is most conducive to releasing full sensual potential.
This is a system so powerful it affects who we choose as a mate, how we interact with them, and whether or not the relationship will last. I may be going out on a limb here, but I am proposing that when intimacy becomes the gateway to this highest form of human experience, this is what most people seek from their life partner relationship—whether they are fully conscious of this need or not. So if you are with me so far and would like to explore what it takes to achieve this highest state within your relationship and have it continue to grow and blossom over time, read on. And in so doing helped us and I achieve levels of emotional, physical and even spiritual intimacy beyond what is conventionally (within the context of a typical S. So if you are the kind of guy that can get hard just thinking about a pretty woman, this can be a bit of a hurdle to overcome. makes us think and feel that our ultimate sexual experience is release through climax and ejaculation (remember the procreative imperative).
Going back to the basics may be exactly what you need. To avoid The Most Common Birth Control Side Effects.)Natural family planning (NFP), also known as the rhythm method, is a form of birth control that involves tracking your body’s temperature and cervical mucus to determine the days of the month you’re most likely to get pregnant.You've tried lighting candles and slipping into something lacy, but let's face it: After a long day it sometimes feels darn near impossible to get in the mood."Women do so much juggling, they can put their sexuality on the back burner and lose that connection with their sensual side," notes Marianne Brandon, Ph D, author of Reclaiming Desire.For example, many men think that when they sense their woman is about to climax she wants you to go harder and faster (primarily because that’s how we guys respond to sexual stimulation). And I say that in the context of where my orgasms are now many times more powerful and long lasting than they ever were.Chances are however (and there are always exceptions), your woman wants you to keep it slow and steady as she builds to orgasm. I am very fortunate to have a female partner who is very comfortable with and fully understands her own body and sensuality.And you can switch to a new person whenever you want.The problem is that your brain isn’t equipped to handle that kind of stimulation [1,2].But it's not a lost cause, she adds: "By taking a few deliberate steps, you can reconnect with your sensuality." Tune in and turn on: Women who regularly focus on what they see, smell, feel, and hear report higher levels of arousal and sexual satisfaction, reports a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine.To get in the habit, choose one snack a day to eat thoughtfully, suggests lead researcher Lori Brotto, Ph D.Unfortunately, this is not the case for the majority of women in our culture where female sexual pleasure has been looked down upon at best, thanks primarily to various religious and cultural influences. is to learn as much about and become comfortable with their own body and sexuality as possible, without shame or inhibition.So for many women, the first step to upgrading their S. Based upon my admittedly limited observations, I feel most women are capable of literally unlimited sensual potential at any adult age. Just know that if you don’t authentically share what you want, don’t be disappointed in what you get.After you ovulate, your temperature will rise a bit, usually less than one degree, she explains.You’re most likely to get pregnant two to three days before your temperature peaks, which is why tracking yourself for several months and discovering a pattern is necessary when using NFP as a form of birth control, says Landa.Women typically produce the most mucus right before ovulation, and that's when the consistency becomes clear and slippery, similar to raw egg whites.